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Journal • October 22, 2026
Giving a man a scarf: how to choose one without getting it wrong
di—Fondatore SILKinCOM
"It is easy to buy a scarf, it is hard to buy one he will actually wear. Fibre, length and colour are settled before you buy: here is how, with three options from 70 to 150 euros."
A scarf is the present you choose when you want to get it right without gambling on a size. Which is exactly why it so often ends up in a drawer: it is easy to buy one, it is hard to buy one he will actually wear. The difference is not the price, it is three details settled before you buy — the fibre, the length and the colour — and the person receiving it will never explain them to you.
Whoever wears it knows at once: if it prickles, if it is too short to go round twice, if the colour does not sit with the coat he owns, the scarf stays where it is. If it works, it becomes the one he reaches for every morning from November to March.
The fibre decides everything else
We make men's scarves in two fibres: pure wool and pure cashmere. It is not a quality ladder, they are two different uses.
Wool costs less, is more hard-wearing and copes with daily use: rain, a rucksack, the car, the dog in the park. It is the right choice for someone who treats a scarf roughly, and for anyone who wants one to keep at the office without a second thought.
Cashmere, weight for weight, is warmer and lighter: it covers without adding bulk under a coat, it does not itch, and it still looks elegant over an evening jacket. It is the present for someone who dresses well and notices materials, and for anyone who already owns a wool scarf and would like a better one.
The three measurements that matter
A man's scarf works when it is long enough to go twice round the neck and still lie flat on the chest. Below 170 centimetres the loop does not close and the ends stay short; above two metres the volume becomes cumbersome under a tailored coat.
Our sizes sit in between: 190 x 35 centimetres, the classic proportion of Italian men's scarves. It is the same for wool and for cashmere, so the choice comes down to fibre and colour.
The three options, and who they are for
Tremezzo, pure wool, 70 euros
The is the everyday scarf: 100% wool, 190 x 35 cm, five colours including black, beige and light blue. It is the right present for a colleague, a brother, a friend who leaves early in the morning and does not handle a scarf delicately. It costs little for how long it lasts, and at the end of winter it washes without anxiety.
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Varenna, pure cashmere, 120 euros
The Varenna is the next step: 100% cashmere, the same size, four colours. It is the present for someone who wears a coat every day and has already understood the difference between one fibre and another. Grey is the safest choice for an office wardrobe; beige works over everything.
Cernobbio, pure cashmere, 150 euros
The Cernobbio is the most important of the three: 100% cashmere, 190 x 35 cm, three colours. It is the present you give once and that is remembered — for a father, a business partner, someone you want to say something to without writing it on a card.
Colour: two rules and one exception
The first rule is to look at the coat, not the person. Over a navy or grey coat, grey, beige and light blue work; over camel or beige, navy, charcoal and black sit well. The scarf has to accompany the outerwear he already owns, not fight it.
The second is that neutrals never tire. A man given a grey scarf wears it for five winters; one in a loud pattern wears it three times and then leaves it.
The exception is for someone who always dresses dark and is bored of it: there a pale colour, like the light blue of the Tremezzo, lightens the whole and gets noticed without looking eccentric.
How to tell a well-made scarf
Look at three things. The fringe, which should be evenly knotted and not glued. The body of the cloth, which should spring back when you crush it in your hand rather than staying marked. And the label, which should state a single fibre: 100% wool or 100% cashmere, with no vague formulas like "fine blend".
For cashmere there is one more test, done with your fingers: the real fibre feels warm and dry, never slippery. The full checks are in our guide on how to recognise a real cashmere pashmina, and they apply to a scarf as well.
How much to spend, and why prices differ so widely
Between a thirty-euro scarf and a hundred-and-fifty-euro one the difference is not the brand: it is the fibre and the work. Properly carded real wool costs more than an acrylic that resembles it in photographs, and long-fibre cashmere costs more than a short-fibre one that opens up and felts after a single winter.
For a present, the threshold worth respecting is the declared fibre: 100% wool or 100% cashmere, stated on the label. Below it you save twenty euros and give a piece that lasts a season. Above it you give something he will still own in ten years, and the cost per winter becomes negligible.
How long it lasts, and how not to ruin it at the first wash
A wool or cashmere scarf lasts fifteen years if washed properly and two if washed badly. The rules are few: lukewarm water, never wring, dry flat, store folded and never hung. We gathered them in our guide on how to wash cashmere and on our product care page.
It is worth telling whoever receives the present, or better still writing it on the card: it is the detail that turns a beautiful piece into a lasting one.
The questions we are asked before buying a present
Which scarf if I don't know his taste?
A neutral colour and a noble fibre: grey or beige, wool if he will use it every day, cashmere if he dresses formally. With a plain 190 x 35 cm scarf the risk of getting it wrong is almost nil.
Wool or cashmere for a man?
It depends on the use, not the price. Wool for everyday use and for someone careless with their clothes; cashmere for someone who wears a coat in town and notices materials.
Is a scarf too obvious a present?
It is, if it is any old scarf. A scarf in a noble fibre, in the right size and in a colour that matches what he already owns, is among the few presents genuinely worn every day for months.
How much do you spend on a present that gets noticed?
From 70 euros for pure wool to 150 for the most important cashmere. It is a range in which the present reads as serious without embarrassing the person receiving it.
Is gift wrapping included?
Yes, the maison's gift box is included with every order, at no extra cost.
Can you give it to someone who has never owned cashmere?
Yes, and in fact it is the present that gets noticed most: the difference to the touch against a synthetic scarf is immediate, even for someone who has never thought about fabrics.
The present you can picture on him
The simplest way to know whether a scarf is the right present is to picture it on him on the first Monday of December, over the coat he wears to work. If you can see it, it is the right choice. If you have to strain, change the colour before buying rather than after.
